This year, I discovered something transformative at UNITED: The National Conference on School Leadership: the power of connection through a community of practice for assistant principals (APs). Thanks to the virtual Zoom sessions hosted by the NAESP, I met colleagues from across the country and even around the world. What started as a professional development opportunity quickly became a safe space where we shared openly, learned deeply, and grew together.

Connection that Strengthens

Every virtual AP Community of Practice meeting was a chance to learn from others. Whether it was a strategy, a story, or a shared challenge, I left each meeting stronger and more equipped to lead. There were days I didn’t feel like joining after a long day at school, but I always left feeling uplifted. Then came UNITED, which took place this year in Seattle. I walked into our AP Community of Practice session and instantly recognized faces from our virtual meetings. We instantly hugged, chatted, laughed, shared snacks, and were immersed in activities to bolster are unbreakable bond. The trust had already been built virtually, and now it deepened. We took a group picture and bonded even more. That’s the power of connection.

Encouragement for the Hard Work

Let’s be honest—this work is hard. But hearing “me too” from other APs made the load feel lighter throughout our community experience. Encouragement became fuel. The community reminded me that I wasn’t alone in the challenges. We celebrated wins, shared frustrations, and lifted each other up. It’s easy to feel isolated in leadership, but this group made me feel seen and heard.

Support When It’s Needed Most

Whether it was a tough day or a big decision, the community showed up. We didn’t just talk. We supported each other in real time. Now, I don’t have to wait for the next virtual call after meeting in person. I can pick up the phone and reach out. That’s the kind of bond we’ve built.

As much as we’re told that vulnerability is a strength, let’s admit it: There will be times where you don’t want to go to your principal. Still, you’ll want to have someone to call for advice, someone who’s lived it.

While virtual connection was powerful, attending UNITED brought it full circle. Seeing faces I’d only known through screens reminded me that leadership is not a solo journey. It’s a shared practice. AP Community of Practice moderator Donna McGuire helped us build something special, an evolving, intentional community where we elevate the profession together.

Communities of practice work because they are built on purpose, trust, and shared experience. They are informal, voluntary, and self-organized, but they are also transformative. As I continue to integrate into this community, I look forward to growing, leading, and lifting others. That’s how we evolve. That’s how we elevate.

Sonia Matthew is assistant principal of Mary B. Neal Elementary School in Waldorf, Maryland, and a 2025 National Outstanding Assistant Principal.

Read more session notes in the NAESP Conference Blog.